Emotions of Caregiving
”The lost umbrella”
Barbara Silverstone, in her book, You & Your Aging Parents, says that adult children have to accept "the lost umbrella" of parents who were caregivers and protectors. Adult children may experience feelings of dread about the future mental and physical decline of older family members and a sense of their own mortality and vulnerability. Anger, a sense of abandonment, hostility, resentment, and past feelings of unresolved conflicts and situations are often re-kindled. These reactions can create stress on the relationship with the aging family member and further complicate caregiving.